i have been reading blogs and i asked myself how far i would let a Dominant push me to prove my worthiness to him and i have come to the conclusion that if i wasnt comfortable in completing what he asked me to do i would refuse. Does this make me more less of a submissive because i didnt follow through with what he required. If he tried to say use emotional blackmail e.g. 'you would do this if you wanted to prove your love for me', would you still have the same respect for him, would it damage your relationship?, would it damage you emotionally? Would you feel safe playing with him again. Do you feel its right that your safety is put at risk but still you go through with it anyhow because you want to please him so much?
Is it not important to remain true to yourself, your beliefs and your limits? You would advise another do not put themselves in harms way but yet you put yourself in harms way because you think a true submissive would do this. You know its not true, so why go through with it?
Dont get me wrong i know its part of the lifestyle to push ones limits and you rely on the Dominant so much to make sure you stay within the safety those limits, but what about the Dominants who go that little bit further and go beyond this, you know what they ask of you is wrong but yet you still go through with it because they have asked for proof of your devotion to them. WRONG!!!!
So think about what has been asked of you, think about yourself, your safety, your health and most of all your emotional state when asked to undertake a 'hard limit'