tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1950670983287323307.post8074932445417249403..comments2023-11-03T05:17:20.904-07:00Comments on Beautiful Submission: Hard Limitsblossomhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18233213834265183615noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1950670983287323307.post-88232471310394321652011-07-13T13:08:51.766-07:002011-07-13T13:08:51.766-07:00Thank you everyone for their comments and it seems...Thank you everyone for their comments and it seems that a few of us subs have been pushed that little bit further than we were comfortable with. <br /><br />But i think we are all singing from the same song book and that is we dont do anything that we are not happy doing no matter what the Dominant says to us, nor do we need to prove ourselves to them either by undertaking something that is totally out of your boundaries, respectfully of course!!!<br /><br />Thank you again for all your comments.<br /><br />blossom xxblossomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18233213834265183615noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1950670983287323307.post-52904811535667612742011-07-13T07:25:03.375-07:002011-07-13T07:25:03.375-07:00I'm going with Alice on this one; you should n...I'm going with Alice on this one; you should not have to "prove yourself" as such. And sure they push your limits -but not your hard limits! Not while they still are hard limits. Now, limits change. Hard limits become soft limits, soft limits become wants. Soft limits can be pushed. Hard limits are just that -completely off limits!<br /><br />If something truly feels uncomfortable for you then you should not do it -and if it feels truly uncomfortable to you then the dominant should no longer want you to do it! (at that time at least)<br />I know Master has asked me to try things that I've been a bit uncomfortable with, well more apprehensive/uneasy with, sometimes I've tried but if I still feel uncomfortable with it, if I tell Him so, He would never ever tell me to continue! Ever. Not at that time. Sure you can try again some other time, but stuff that makes you uncomfortable should be treated with care, and be taken slowly if at all.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06962358426978378748noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1950670983287323307.post-15198105679609336842011-07-12T09:07:09.643-07:002011-07-12T09:07:09.643-07:00I had to comment again because this idea of provin...I had to comment again because this idea of proving your worth has me all, well, I don't know, just upset I guess. I don't think that any sub should ever have to prove her worth. If the Dom didn't think she was worthy enough to start with then why'd he pick her? I think a relationship like this should start with each person, Dom and sub, already feeling worthy of each other, accepted for who they are already faults and strengths alike.Alicehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02108863768139755111noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1950670983287323307.post-68601024954392373332011-07-11T22:41:17.110-07:002011-07-11T22:41:17.110-07:00All very good points and i couldn't disagree w...All very good points and i couldn't disagree with any but sometimes you just get caught up in the heat of the moment..deperate not to be broken..so wanting to prove your worth..you know its wrong but dont hesitate to follow Masters instruction.<br />sarahAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1950670983287323307.post-21633677770729402512011-07-11T18:51:05.473-07:002011-07-11T18:51:05.473-07:00I think a lot of us when we first start at some po...I think a lot of us when we first start at some point come across a dominant like that. I too join the ranks with Alice and SBF. They use manipulation as a form of dominance but then we learn it isn't really dominance at all. <br />Great post and awesome questions...because I think we all can use the reminder from time to time...or know someone who can :)<br />Hugs!<br />BananaBanana Boathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11850309357998339356noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1950670983287323307.post-86406381217536480492011-07-11T16:03:39.876-07:002011-07-11T16:03:39.876-07:00I agree with Alice...I to had (let) a D push me fu...I agree with Alice...I to had (let) a D push me further than I was comfortable. In the end I decided he was not the man for me. I think of it as a life lesson, one that I will not forget...for the next time.<br />hugs :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1950670983287323307.post-7346508760616914432011-07-11T15:30:37.914-07:002011-07-11T15:30:37.914-07:00I think it is wrong for a Dominant to ever push th...I think it is wrong for a Dominant to ever push the limits of a sub as though them doing this one thing is proof of their devotion either to the Dom or to the lifestyle.<br /><br />I've had a Dom do this to me, and I allowed him to push me past my limits, too far outside my comfort zone, because he said if I didn't then I wasn't committed. Looking back on it now, he was wrong to push like that, I was wrong to let him.Alicehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02108863768139755111noreply@blogger.com