A Blossom of pinkness for blossom. .

Wednesday 29 June 2011

OBEDIENCE

I would like you to kneel....
I would like you to repeat....
I would like you to read....
I would like your thoughts on....
I would like you to write....
I would like you to do....
I woud like you to touch....
I would like you to smile....
I would like you to wear....
I would like ........

Bliss just bliss

Tuesday 28 June 2011

Pain

This is more of a questions than a posting. But i was wondering would you as a Dominant inflict pain on yourself so as to judge the amount of pain that you would be administring to your submissive especially if you are not in the same room as each other especially in LDRs? Also have you experienced practices that you use on your submissive on yourself beforehand? i suppose these questions are really going out to the Dominants out there.

Sunday 26 June 2011

Submission


What is submission? Submission is an act whereby one gives control over to another, this can be a scary prospect for someone to do, so it is very important that the person that you give the control to is someone who you trust implicitly. It is important for the submissive to still have a certain amount of control in how much control she will allow the Dominant to have. The majority of women and men who are submissive are usually very strong, opinionated, articulate people, not the type of people one would expect to be submissive, but it is a yearning that comes from deep inside the person, they want nothing more than to hand control over to another, to control as much of the submissives life as they allow, also more important there has to be an emotional bond between Dominant and submissive.

One reads there are different levels of submission but each person fits into their own role of submission and what they wish to gain from it, what their needs are, and if a Dominant can given them what they require, one wonders who the stronger person is in this type of relationship, most people think probably think its the Dominant, i beg to differ.

To be submissive comes from deep within oneself, its a need, a thirst that needs to be quenched. The thought of giving over your loyality, trust, faith, passion, love to someone who you want to belong to is an amazing, fulfilling feeling. Each submissive has their own personal level of submission that they feel comfortable in giving, but sometimes with a little more push from their Dominant they give that little bit extra.

But not all submission has to have physical contact, a lot of the time it can be mental control, either via email, phone, but at other times it can be intensely physical.

Then there are subs who are not submissive but enjoy the dynamics of the play, but i feel true submission comes from deep within, its natural, its in your being, though i didnt feel this until it was brought out more by my previous Master. Though i must admit when i was younger i felt different, loved different things, loved spilling wax onto myself, loved being chased, caught and tied up, loved pretending to be an animal, and then being walked around on a piece of rope.

To me its the mental control that i find exciting, having someone control everything that i do, from what i eat, read, watch in my daily life to physical control, bondage, sensory deprivation and of course a little pain!!

When one thinks about it i am sure there is a little bit of submission in all of us, to have someone take that control from you, to take care of you, i think even Dominants have had this thought at some point in their life. Submission isnt a weakness, not in the least, it takes a strong person to put their trust in someone, to let them basically hold your life in their hands, that is true submission to me.

Wednesday 22 June 2011

Hiding

How does it feel to hide behind who you really are:

To hide behind the emotions that you want to express and share
To hide behind the things that the vanilla world doesn’t completely understand
To hide behind the physical and mental needs you want to experience and learn from
To hide behind the mask of who you truly are and what you want
To hide behind the constraints of normality of the vanilla world
To hide behind the dictation of what is suppose to be right and wrong
To hide behind the yearning that comes from deep within you
To hide behind the eyes of someone who is lost and wants to be found
I am that person, I am hiding

Monday 20 June 2011

Pics

Hi was away for a few days, but am back and raring to go...lol.. i said i would share a few more photos of Zee Maitri and here they are, i love the use of the lighting in the first one, he has a video clip of shibari using darkness and then light coming through the darkness around his models.



Monday 13 June 2011

WOW


Well what can i say, i am so delighted to notice that the 'hits' to my blog have gone over 5000, well i never thought that i would get to that amount, it is so lovely to know that people have taken the time to visit my little blog, so i want to say a big 'thank you' to you all and i hope you will keep returning.

A smiling blossom xxx

Friday 10 June 2011

How Beautiful

i found this picture by the photographer Zee Maitri, he has some beautiful shibari photos and videos, and i just love everything about it, the colours, the pose of the model, the way the ropework is around her body. How romantic is this photo, i just love this, aaahhhh how i wish that was me, so i thought i would share it with you.

Tuesday 7 June 2011

Contracts

What is a contract within BDSM. Contracts within BDSM are usually between a Master and submissive/slave. These can be very detailed, or just something that is in agreement between both parties, it is whatever both parties want and indepth as they feel is necessary.

For some within the community a contract like this can be as binding as a marriage certificate and i feel more significant because of the dynamics and intensity of the relationship between Master and submissive.

A lot can be detailed in the contract from the length of time it should last especially if both Master and submissive are just starting out on their relationship to detailing rules, rituals, protocols, and limits, really whatever is needed for the relationship to work it should be included in the contract.

A sample copy of a contract could include the following:

D/s Contract

I, ________________________, with a free mind and an open heart; do request of
_______________________ that He accept the submission of my will unto His and to take me into His care and guidance, that W/we may grow together in love, trust and mutual respect. The satisfaction of His wants, desires, and whims are consistent with my desire as a submissive to be found pleasing to Him. To that end, I offer Him use of my time, talents, and abilities. Further, I ask, in sincere humility, that, as my Master, He accept the keeping of my body for the fulfillment and enhancement of O/our sexual, spiritual, emotional, and intellectual needs. To achieve this, He may have unfettered use of my body any time, any place, in front of anyone; to keep or to give away, as He will determine.

I ask that He guide me in any sexual, sensual, or scene-related behavior, both together with, and separate from Him, in such a way as to further my growth as a person.

I request of _______________________, as my Master, that he use the power vested in His role; to mold and shape me; assisting me to grow in strength, character, confidence, and being, and that He continue to help me to develop my artistic and intellectual abilities.

In return, I agree:

To obey His commands to the best of my ability.

To strive to overcome feelings of guilt or shame, and all inhibitions that interfere with my capability to serve Him and limit my growth as His submissive.

To maintain honest and open communication.

To reveal my thoughts, feelings, and desires without hesitation or embarrassment.

To inform Him of wants and perceived needs, recognizing that He is the sole judge of whether or how these shall be satisfied.

To strive toward maintenance of a positive self-image and development of realistic expectations and goals.

To work with Him to become a happy and self-fulfilled individual.

To work against negative aspects of my ego and my insecurities that would interfere with advancement of these aims.

My surrender as a submissive is done with the knowledge that nothing asked of me will demean me as a person, and will in no way diminish my own responsibilities toward making utmost use of my potential. In recognition of my family obligations, nothing will be required of me that will in any way damage or harm my children, nor interfere with the performance of my duties as mother and as wife.

This I, _______________________, do entreat, with lucidity and the realization of what this means, both stated and implied, in the conviction that this offer will be understood in the spirit of faith, caring, esteem and devotion in which it is given.

Should either of U/us find that our aspirations are not being well served by this agreement, find this commitment too burdensome, or for any other reason wish to cancel, E/either may do so by verbal notification to the O/other, in keeping with the consensual nature of this agreement. W/we both understand that cancellation means a cessation of the control stated and implied within this agreement, not a termination of O/our relationship as friends and lovers. Upon cancellation, each of U/us agrees to offer to the other H/his or her reasons and to assess our new needs and situation openly and lovingly.

This agreement shall serve as the basis for an extension of O/our relationship, committed to in the spirit of loving and consensual dominance and submission with the intention of furthering self-awareness and exploration, promoting health and happiness, and improving both O/our lives.

I offer my consent to submission to ______________________________ under the terms stated above on this the ________ day of _____________ in the year ________.

____________________________
Signature of Submissive

I offer my acceptance of submission by ______________________________ under the terms stated above on this the ________ day of ______________ in the year ________.

____________________________
Signature of Dominant



When i was with my previous Master we had talked about having a contract between us, at the time i would have loved to have had this, especially as the relationship was only new and of course all new subs want to be owned in this way with their Master, between a contract and their collar what more could a submissive ask for...lol, but sadly i never did get my contract which is probably a blessing in disguise given the way things ended it would have destroyed the whole meaning of this.

How do other submissives feel about a contract, would they have one? or would verbal words have the same effect?

Friday 3 June 2011

Beautiful Day

What a beautiful day
The sun is shinning
The air is warm against my skin
Those lovely submissive feelings running through me
i dont want them to go away
i want to stay like this forever
What a beautiful day


~smiles~ blossom xx